Help with depressed, angry mother....?

I'm "sick" too (i have bipolar and suffer from severe depressive swings) but that doesn't excuse bad behavior and it sounds like that's what your mom is doing. I have had a failed marriage and severe abandonment issues because of it as he did just walk out on me and the kids one day and never came back but, it doesn't mean I can freak out anytime I choose and blame it on being sick. We still have the ability to be decent human beings and it sounds like your mother is using her illness as a crutch to keep you where she wants you. Maybe therapy will be good for you because you can tell her in a "safe" environment you need to cut the apron strings because there comes a time in your life when you have to live it for yourself and your mother is interfering in that and she doesn't have that right.